Sorry I didn't get a blog out last week. I went on a little family vacation and I also went to a 2-day seminar on Coaching and how to build a coaching business.
This got me to thinking about what I am really good at or what would I be able to coach others on. What is the one thing that I know really well? If you have been following my blogs, it is all about changing the way you think. I've heard it said in AA that I didn't have a drinking problem, I had a thinking problem. This is true.
I've written blogs about fear and worry and such, but I believe it all comes back to my thought life. I have spent a lot of time
worrying about stupid things that never happened. That was wasted time that I will never get back, but over the last 19 years I have learned some good lessons. Probably one of the biggest is how to control what I think about. It's a stewardship thing. I've heard it said that you are what you eat. I don't believe that. I eat salad, but I'm not a rabbit! I believe that you are what you think. That is maybe the only thing that God gives us complete control of. I did not have control over my thought life for a long time. I was washed here and there by feelings and circumstances. The Bible talks about a double-minded man being tossed to and fro like a sailor. Also it talks about taking counsel from the wicked. The way that I talked to myself, I was taking counsel from the wicked.
I have learned how to talk to myself differently and have learned to think differently and it has revolutionized my life. So I think that I will focus on helping others to change their thinking and to have good stewardship practice on what you allow into your head. Paul talks about taking every thought captive to Christ and Proverbs says "as a man thinks so he is." I believe that this should be the foundation that I have been working on for so long.
It's time to launch.
Pushing towards Excellence,
Keith
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Where'd your "want to" go to?
I haven't received very much feedback on blogs, but if you read this and have any ideas on this, I would appreciate your feedback.
Why are people apathetic to change? Most people, if you ask them if there's anything in their life that they would like to change, they would say, yes, and then give you a list. They might even give you 20 reasons why they should change. Such as, I would like to change my eating habits because I have or am close to being diabetic and I know that if I don't get this under control, I'm going to die. They might change their ways for a while, but sooner or later, they give in and go back to not eating right. It's even more subtle in behaviors like gossip, negative talk, or talking to yourself negatively.
What keeps people doing this? I believe one of the things is desire, a "want to." How do you keep that "want to" going? How do you develop a steadfastness that will not fail? Is it just "mental laziness?" I know I get that way about exercise once in a while, but then I see the effects and get motivated again. I need to make a decision, then follow through. I have been given self-control through the Holy Spirit and, when I practice it, the self control gets stronger and stronger until I develop a habit that I refuse to give up.
Also, I would like to add, if I'm out of balance in one area of my life, it seems to have an effect on other areas of my life. Such as, if I'm not getting enough sleep, then I tend to get cranky or I don't feel like exercising. I don't want to exercise self-control and I let my guard down on other behaviors I'm trying to change.
Pushing with Excellence,
Keith
Why are people apathetic to change? Most people, if you ask them if there's anything in their life that they would like to change, they would say, yes, and then give you a list. They might even give you 20 reasons why they should change. Such as, I would like to change my eating habits because I have or am close to being diabetic and I know that if I don't get this under control, I'm going to die. They might change their ways for a while, but sooner or later, they give in and go back to not eating right. It's even more subtle in behaviors like gossip, negative talk, or talking to yourself negatively.
What keeps people doing this? I believe one of the things is desire, a "want to." How do you keep that "want to" going? How do you develop a steadfastness that will not fail? Is it just "mental laziness?" I know I get that way about exercise once in a while, but then I see the effects and get motivated again. I need to make a decision, then follow through. I have been given self-control through the Holy Spirit and, when I practice it, the self control gets stronger and stronger until I develop a habit that I refuse to give up.
Also, I would like to add, if I'm out of balance in one area of my life, it seems to have an effect on other areas of my life. Such as, if I'm not getting enough sleep, then I tend to get cranky or I don't feel like exercising. I don't want to exercise self-control and I let my guard down on other behaviors I'm trying to change.
Pushing with Excellence,
Keith
Saturday, May 7, 2011
What About Worry?
Why do you worry? I think about this. Why do I worry? Is it because I'm selfish or self-centered or greedy? Maybe it's the fear of losing something that I have or fear of not getting something that I want. (I think it goes beyond these character defects.) Maybe it's a lack of faith. Could that be the answer? I have heard it said and have said it myself; If you pray, why worry; if you worry, why pray. I think that it goes deeper than that. I think it has to do with two things; belief and acceptance.
Now, maybe I'm splitting hairs when I separate belief and faith, but, for me, belief is: I know that I know that I know that something is true. What if I believe God loves me? How would that make me feel? Would I really have to worry about anything? If I knew for sure that something was going or not going to happen, or that I was going to get something or have it taken away; if I truly believed that all things good or bad come through the Father's hands before it gets to me, would that change my mind about worry?
If I accept that all things that come to me through the Father's hands are his perfect will for me, then I need to trust him for the outcome. All things work for good for those who love the Lord. He is doing a work in me and I don't have to worry.
To me worry is a waste of time and energy. If I used the same amount of time and energy and devoted that toward something else, I would be much better off .
What do you worry about? Why?
Now, maybe I'm splitting hairs when I separate belief and faith, but, for me, belief is: I know that I know that I know that something is true. What if I believe God loves me? How would that make me feel? Would I really have to worry about anything? If I knew for sure that something was going or not going to happen, or that I was going to get something or have it taken away; if I truly believed that all things good or bad come through the Father's hands before it gets to me, would that change my mind about worry?
If I accept that all things that come to me through the Father's hands are his perfect will for me, then I need to trust him for the outcome. All things work for good for those who love the Lord. He is doing a work in me and I don't have to worry.
To me worry is a waste of time and energy. If I used the same amount of time and energy and devoted that toward something else, I would be much better off .
What do you worry about? Why?
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